Before I knew any better, I always use to think that life is the way it is for a reason.
I was also told that we are not here to stand out. We are here to do our best and fit in.
The very first mistake in my life. I learned the hard and long way that…
We have the power to change our situation.
We have the power to create our future.
Yet, so many of us think we are not in control of what happens to us in life.
I am here to tell you today I have first-hand experience of this. And I am going to tell you, I believed that I was not in control. I never knew that the thoughts that I had were actually creating my future minute by minute. I never even gave this a thought. Only after a lot of self-improvement, I learn that no matter what happens with us in our lives the way we react to what happens has a great influence on our future.
You see the dream of the planet. (As Don Miguel Ruiz says in his video about The Four Agreements.)
Has taught me all wrong. I learned to like so many others. That there are certain ways that life works. There are certain beliefs, laws, and religions and we have to do what we have been taught since birth. I only realized that these things were not all the truth. We were taught that this is how it is. There are no other ways. Yet, there are.
It is scary how we grow up to believe in these rules.
This book is one of my favorite books. One that helped me overcome so many bad elements in my life and change my very own future.
This is a definite recommendation to anyone looking to reduce suffering in their life.
This book is truly wonderful. It is a short, easy to read the book. Yet, packed with potent and valuable wisdom. This book starts by discussing the dream of the planet and our own domestication.
Then the book goes to the four agreements and ends with breaking your old, less valuable agreements.
We live in a world full of smoke and mirrors. The mirrors are us, the dreamers. The reflection of one another. The smoke is our own interpretation of the dream that we are living in.
We have all been domesticated and programmed to a set of beliefs. Many of these belief systems that we have been ingrained with, leads us to suffer. The only way to relieve ourselves from this suffering is to break these old beliefs and to replace them with new ones.
How often have you suffered multiple times about something that happened only once?
Today, I want to share with you why we need them, which one I think is
most important and how you can work on embedding them into your life.
Here are my 3 lessons from the book:
1. We’re domesticated from a young age and it leaves us living by a set
of rules we haven’t chosen ourselves.
2. What people say and do to you is a reflection on them, not you. Know
who you are and you won’t take things personally.
3. There are three ways to break your old agreements and live with new
ones you choose yourself
It sounds insane to think we suffer multiple times after one mistake. But it is true.
Everyone has experienced this. The four agreements can change your life. But it does require a commitment and strong willpower. Imagine transforming your life to your own personal heaven.
This agreement is the most important and the hardest to honor. However, your word is power. Your word is how you create and commit to manifesting your own personal habit. Your word is a force. A power you have to express, communicate and create all the events within your life. Your word is how you can essentially speak things into existence.
If you say that you are going to exercise five times a week. Then that is it. You are going to exercise five times a week. No excuses.
Your word, back by action. Has the power to positively impact your life in a transformative way. You can measure the impeccability of your word through your own self- love. Those that lack self-love will lack honoring their word. If you want to be free and happy, then be impeccable with your word.
Here is another summary...
I want you to read this:
It is possible. It is possible because I did it, and I am no better than you. No, we are exactly the same. We have the same kind of brain, the same kind of bodies; we are humans. If I was able to break those agreements and create new agreements, then you can do the same. If I can be impeccable with my word, why not you?
Just this one agreement can change your whole life. Impeccability of the word can lead you to personal freedom, to huge success and abundance; it can take away all fear and transform it into joy and love.
“When you take things personally then you feel offended and your reaction is to defend your belief and create conflict.”
Realize that when somebody is trying to cause you to suffer. Whether intentionally or unintentionally it is simply a reflection of their own thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions. N matter what others think to say or do. Don’t take any of it personally. Sometimes we choose to take things personally because of our own addiction to suffering.
Make a conscious effort to alleviate yourself from this general addiction to suffering.
Even the opinions you have of yourself. Do not take it personally. When you make a committed habit of not taking things personally. You will avoid any upset in your life. Imagine, jealousy, sadness, envy. Imagine all of those suffering states disappearing from your life. The challenge of committing to not take things personally is difficult but the reward is huge.
We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe that they are all true.
Look back, and you will see that a lot of sadness in your life can be traced back to when you were taking things personally and making assumptions. Making assumptions will lead to suffering because it is not aligned with the truth. We have a fear of being ourselves around others. Because of assumptions, we assume everyone else blames us, judges us, uses us, just as we do ourselves. We reject ourselves before others even reject us. We have a habit of dreaming, with no bases in reality. And then when the truth is inevitably revealed things are not what we thought or expected and then we suffer.
The third agreement or don’t make assumptions is difficult because we have a habit of doing the complete opposite.
It is a consistent unconscious habit. Replace the old with the new. It is done so by committing to establishing a conscious new habit.
Think about how much more mental freedom you will have. Living on the terms of reality and the truth rather than assumptions and false speculations.
Under any circumstance always do your best. No more and no less.
But keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. ~ Don Miguel Ruiz.
Only you determine when you are doing your best. Doing your best will not always be the same quantity or quality. However, doing your best is simply that:
DOING YOUR BEST.
This agreement is about the action of the first three agreements. What is magical about this agreement is that when done with sincerity it will release the inner judgment and inner critic you have from yourself.
YOU SEE: You can’t judge yourself, because you are doing your best.
Don’t do something from the perspective of you have to do something. Rather do it from a get to do way than they have to do way.
Do your best. By taking action to live life to the fullest.
The four agreements are powerful. They are there for you to adopt into your life for real positive life transformation. When you adopt these four agreements into your life, where you are
Then you are going to have an extraordinary life.
a Life full of happiness, love, and fulfilment.
The challenge will be combating all the other agreements within your life. And other agreements, around you.
To make this work for you, you need to be a warrior. A warrior that can protect, defend and live up to the four agreements.
YOUR HAPPINESS, FREEDOM AND ENTIRE WAY OF LIVING DEPENDS ON THIS.
The warrior's goal is to transcend this world. To escape your own personal hell and never go back. If you ever break one of these agreements. Don’t break yourself up.
Be in the present. Take this commitment and do these four agreements to the best of your ability. Always do your best and the agreements will become easier and easier to maintain.
Today: Shed the old and unwanted bad habits. (agreements)
Replace them with these simple yet powerful agreements.
The bad habits or agreements you will be shedding. It is like a monster. You can defeat it, or you can face it. Stop paying attention to the old agreements. They no longer serve you. Give all your attention to these four agreements and the old crappy agreements (beliefs) will disappear from your life.
You can download your own free Four Agreements PDF here. ====>
Here is the audio format of this entire book.
I was so impressed with the change this little book and the implementation of its content in my life that I also bought this little practical guide.
And the 48-card deck that I use daily to remind me and help me with my four agreements.
I also did a review on the Four Agreements. You can read all about it here.
My final words on The Four Agreements:
The most important Agreement is the first one. Be impeccable with your word.
What you think matters. What you think can go against yourself. Not only what you say with your words.
Every time you think something or want to say something.
Ask yourself this question: Is it a fact? Or is it my opinion?
Makes one think, doesn't it?